Sunday, 26 August 2012

Week 15 - Adrenalin Forest, full exposure massages & the long ride home...


Adrenalin Forest!

Hey Everybody,
After last week's reflections on the minefield that is cultural differences, I really wanted to have a relaxed week and weekend. I thought I'd do this by having another full body massage at my Chinese 'House of pain' and try and do something fun - so I did just that! 

Between Yoga & gym sessions (oops, I think that's the first time I mentioned I started yoga officially)... well anyway, between these activities I headed back to my Chinese Massage place, and found quite a full waiting room. I said I didn't mind waiting until someone was free. After 10 mins or so, I heard some chairs being scraped around, and a little Chinese woman popped her head around the corner, and said 'ok, we make a room for you'. The 'room' was not really a room, it was a space usually reserved for neck and back massages, which was basically open to anyone walking past... I assumed that they would put up a screen, but oh no, I was asked to 'take off my clothes' apart from my underwear, and lie on the table. Feeling rather exposed, I just did as I was told and tried to enjoy the massage. All was well for 15 minutes, until the middle-aged lady unfolded the towels covering my legs and bottom (remember I am lying in an open planned spec with no cover) and basically pulled down my boxer shorts a little... I was lying there thinking I was totally exposing my arse to the world! Every time I heard a floor board creek, I was getting nervous that someone else was going to get a view of my bottom cheeks! Fortunately my 'indecent exposure' lasted only briefly before being allowed to enjoy the rest of my massage!  
Adrenalin Forest
Work has been quite intense for me this week, having to deal with some quite high expressed emotions  and a number of difficult conversations with clients, so having a fun weekend was high on priority list. I had been told about a place called 'Adrenalin Forest' based in a nearby town of Porirua, (a 20 minute train ride away). It's the UK equivalent of 'Go Ape' - which is basically an adventure course with rope climbing, zip lines, and rope wire, all set above the ground between 5-50ft+ in the trees! It was just $38, (£19) for 3 hours! (See pictures)
Adrenalin Forest

Adrenalin Forest
Now this course had 7 levels, 1-6 (with a 3a), so we started on level 1, before moving to level 3, and then headed for level 5. There was a bit of a que so thought we'd be adventures and head to the top level - level 6! = MISTAKE.... I was knackered just climbing the 2 rope ladders to the first platform, before a quite nightmare 50ft long 'wire walking' task, made even more difficult by the fact the very trees we were walking between, were moving more than a plastic bag in a hurricane! I tried to keep a  brave face, but if I'm being totally honest, I was very scared and was close to quitting on more than one occasion (I mean you could almost smell the fear!), which would have resulted in being 'rescued' but the staff there - as embarrassing as that might have been, I was scared enough on one of the final obstacles to have considered this option, I just had no strength left in my arms... 


We managed to complete the course, by enjoying the final few zip wires back down to earth! I'm glad I did the course before suggesting it to others, so I don't send somebody up a tree to get stuck! Having said all that, there was a young teenage kiwi kid who did the top level with no fear, and put me to shame! 


One of the easier tasks!
After an afternoon of fear and high energy activity, what better way to end the day than with a local 'Winter Festival' - this being in a town called Petone. Arriving by bus, a quick stroll to the beach led us to the main action, where a number of previously made sculptures had been set on fire as part of the festival. Lots of people milled about the beach, with  few food stalls and small fair ground rides. People waited for the main event - the fire work display which lasted for about 25 mins. It was a pretty good show, made all the better being by the sea. 
At Petone Winter Festival
Burning Sculptures

Petone Fireworks
Petone Fireworks
Can you spot the man in a tie? 
My final story of the week, comes from today. I head a rumor... (always the way to know what's going on in these parts), that there was great sale on at a bicycle shop (Rocket Bikes) in Lyall Bay - on the other side of the hill. After getting a bus there, I found a great deal to pick up a Road/Moutain cross bike with helmet, lights, water bottle holds, pump, lock and lights for just $500 (£250), the bike alone was originally priced over $500! (Oh, and it's a legal thing to wear a helmet here!) They even gave me a free water bottle! Anyway, when I asked if they could deliver the bike to my place, they smiled, laughed (in a nice way) and said no! I was left with no other choice than to ride the bloody think home... the only problem was that I was over the other side of the hill/mountain, and was wearing jeans and a thick hooded top... it was going to be a long and sweaty ride home. 

It was a long and sweaty ride home, but I made it, and safely! Now I can cycle around the bays on a nice sunny day, complete with windproof cycle jacket from Katmandu! Whilst I am clearly embracing the Kiwi healthy outdoor lifestyle, let me assure my good friends and family, that I will stop short of wearing florescent lycra and skin tight shorts! - Though having said that I do now own a pair of skinny jeans, bought here, and probably not suitable for a 33 year old! 

Ok before I divulge any more worrying personal information, I think it's time to go to bed! Lets end with some fireworks! 

Regards from New Zealand!
Dan

Monday, 20 August 2012

Week 14 - 'Tall Poppy' Syndrome, Mark & Jenny Return, University of Victoria Law Revue,and so much more besides!

Wellington with a fuzzy camera!
Hi Everybody,
Wow, I'm a day late writing this and am sat here wondering quite how I can put everything I want to say into words... so it's another one of those blogs where you might want to get a cup of tea, get comfy, and then read away...

I've had so many thing to think about at work this week, with the revelation of a New Zealand (Kiwi) characteristic. (I'm basing this on a general principle, rather than an absolute truth). Whilst chatting with my colleague, (a Psychologist) about a case, she began to describe a general characteristic of Kiwi's is something called 'Tall Poppy' Syndrome. As my colleague said: 'it is not cool to say you're great at stuff". It was suggested that people downplay their skills and abilities. I have always thought that British people do something similar, certainly compared to the U.S.A. However, once this was pointed out to me, I began to realise how true this was, because I've heard quite a few people, (both professionally and personally) use phrases like, 'I wordy I'm going to get found out', or just understate their achievements and skills. 
So I started to wonder how this might affect my interactions with my clients? For example: if a kiwi client is telling me that they are not doing well at work... are they simply not wanting to say that they are good at something because it's in their culture to say that, or is their perception of how their illness affects them? Also, (I'm a confident person/professional & used to promoting what my profession can do - especially as the only Occupational Therapist in the team), so when I am in a meeting with kiwi colleagues, if I say I'm pretty good at doing a certain kind of work, am I making myself look like a 'tall poppy'? It certainly made me think lots about my interactions with both colleagues and clients! 

(One other thing of note, is that people here don't seem to use sarcasm, or understand when I'm being sarcastic... which has led to some silences in conversation!) Even though it's a 'Western' culture, the lines between normal / acceptable behaviors are more hard to understand! More of this later....

Not quite Blackpool
I have also had lots of fun, mainly in the form of two of my oldest friends (Mark & Jenny) returned to Wellington for the weekend, after a crazy 8 day tour around the South Island. A weekend of laughter, walking, drinking and eating ensued.. with some funny photo opportunities! (as you can see from this week's pictures).
Oriental Parade
I also had a rather different, but none the less, fun night on Thursday with my friend Hannah, and some of her friends. We went to Victoria University 'Law Revue' - 'Murder at CULT House' - a show put on by the law students, with full-on songs and dancing, and some very questionable humour. In between the main story there were a series of sketches (skits - as they call them here), where no subject was too taboo! The sketches made fun out of New Zealand politics, ethnicity and pretty much anything and anybody famous. I can't really describe the most controversial jokes, because some people would take real offense. All I can say is that there were some very talented "lawyers" on that stage and some very controversial jokes, I hand't laughed so much in a while! 

Mark with local wildlife!
Woodland walk with Mark!
Back to another issue to do with culture and work! I initially really enjoyed the more relaxed general attitude in the work place here, compared to the National Health Service in the UK. I still like the more relaxed approach here, (like morning tea). People work as hard, but don't get so intense and stressed about things here. However, I have been surprised by some people's use of language and behavior within professional settings. I think part of my problem  is that I am used to working with very strict and clear guidelines in work, and here it feels like some of those guidelines are less clear. It's hard not to give specific examples because I don't know how much of what I see may be specific to my team, or the service I am working for here in Wellington, or if it's an issue across NZ? 
Speaking to people who have moved her from the UK, they have said they have found it difficult to get used to a more relaxed level of conduct in work. I might be bringing my own point of view, values and perceptions of acceptable/unacceptable behaviour into some situations here, but I have observed behavior that I consider to be unprofessional on a number of occasions, in a number of different situations. I must say just because I think that some behavior is inappropriate, (in my perception), it does not mean this is necessarily true in the context in which the behaviour happens. It's just something different, and something I need to learn a way to judge and maybe discuss with kiwi's here in more detail.
Mark ready for dinner!
Jenny @ Bangalore Polo club
So it's getting late and I need to add the pictures! So thanks for reading, and hope everyone's been enjoying the start of the English football season! (How Liverpool lost 0-3 to West Brom, conceding 2 penalties and a red card, I just don't know!!!). Onwards and upwards! 

Regards from New Zealand!
Dan

Sunday, 12 August 2012

Week 13 - A Visit from Friends, Team Away-Days & A Sunday Roast!!

Mount Victoria Lookout
Hey Everybody, just wanted to say I'm so proud to be British after such an amazing achievement by Team GB in the Olympics, and the amazing achievement of Mo Farrah in the 5,000 & 10,000m - truly inspirational! 
Ice Cream - Oriental Parade

So having almost recovered from my cold last week, and having come to accept that I was going to have to watch the rest of the New Zealand Olympic Team during the Olympic coverage, I was looking forward to the arrival of my friends (Mark & Jenny) of 17 years. They are on their summer holidays, which seems strange to me as I'm here in Winter! They were driving here, so didn't arrive until late Wednesday night, and seemed almost semi-delerious when they eventually got here. We got back to my flat where Mark revealed severe bruising on his leg, ribs, and face, with a swollen cheek! Having made sure it wasn't anything to do with commenting on Jenny's driving, I found out that Mark had fallen down a cave, at Waitomo Caves and he really doesn't like small spaces! 

After they had freshened up, and I had been given the proper English Cadbury's chocolate, and English tea bags, sent by my parents (it's so much better than the Cadbury's chocolate here - in my opinion), we headed out for a quick bite to eat! We had a good catch up, and returned back to my flat for a cuppa - it was the first time I had used 3 cups at any one time, so had to get it out of the box in my cupboard. Having agreed Mark was in most need of the bed - being quite injured - Both myself and Jenny took the sleeping bags option (donated kindly by my work mate Catherine)!

Mark working the street!
On Thursday, the heavens opened, in time to soak Mark & Jenny! I was heading off for my first work related 'Team Away-Day'. Having not been a permanent member of staff anywhere since 2007, I was getting a little over excited about what we might do! Whilst I had hoped for some kind of activity based day - such as go-karting or team bonding session - instead we headed for a meeting room away from our normal base, to discuss service development stuff! I'm not going to bore you with more details, but I must say two things... 1) I had the unenviable task of chairing the business meeting part of the day! (I don't think everyone gets my humour here - especially sarcasm), an 2) the highlight of the day was definitely the first hour where people went around the group, giving a bit of information about personal information about how we came into our profession, and how we ended up here in this role. Really interesting as we are a truly international team! I definitely feel like I have a greater understanding of my colleagues both professionally and personally! 

So Thursday evening, I met Mark & Jenny and we headed off to make the most of Wellington's huge number of funky bars! Starting off in one of my favorite bars 'the Library' (see pictures)....

Mark & Jen @ the 'Library'
before heading off to the waterfront to the Mac's Brewery bar for a bite to eat and some Cider! 

Me @ Jen at the Waterfront
So Friday morning soon arrived, and in typical fashion, as Mark & Jenny caught a very early ferry to begin their South island adventure, the rain disappeared and the sun came out! At least they had good views for the crossing! Saturday was another beautiful day here in Wellington, so I took myself back up to the Mount Victoria look out point, and walked to Oriental Parade to sit on the beach for a while... (see photos)...


SUNDAY, (today) has been a great day so worth a little mention. I was invited to a traditional Sunday roast dinner in Johnsonville, a suburb of Wellington, 20 minute train ride away. The dinner was hosted by Stephanie & Derek - the couple I met here through friends, who it turned out I already knew back in England. Oh it was sooooo good to have a nice roast meal, and I topped it off with a visit to the monthly free salsa party and a few fun dances, on the way back to my apartment - a perfect way to finish the weekend! Mark & Jenny return next weekend, so maybe i'll finally have an excuse to go tot he cheesy disco called 'Boogie Wonderland'! 
Sunset - Oriental Parade

Some Random Wedding by the Harbour! 
Regards from New Zealand
Dan

Sunday, 5 August 2012

Week 12 - Wonderful Winter Days, frustrating NZ Olympic TV, & times when you miss home...

Winter Days in Wellington
Hey Everybody, I hope you are all well.
I'm really gutted to be missing the Olympic fever in England right now.. three amazing gold medals in an hour last night.. I would have loved to have seen full coverage but with no Kiwi's (New Zealanders) in these events, I had to settle for highlights... more of these frustrations later. I've also been a little sick this week which has really affected my usual plans, and made me homesick for the first time. I don't normally get too personal but I feel it's appropriate to share a little of my difficult week.

Winter Days...
So, where to start? I guess with the Olympic TV coverage on normal New Zealand TV, (Sky TV has 8 channels of coverage). At first I was really impressed to see almost every NZ athlete get some TV exposure, and it didn't matter if they have a chance of a medal or not. They seemed really proud of their sporting achievements. The 'prime' channel which is pretty much on 24 hours, has shown lots of events! Sounds good eh? Unfortunately, this means that if you want to watch something other than an event with a Kiwi in it, you are very limited! I really wanted to watch one of the cycling finals, as a British cyclist has a great chance to win gold. I was happy to see the event on the schedule. The 'B' Final was shown (with a Kiwi Cyclist), and with just seconds to go to the main final, the channel switched events! The other very noticeable thing here, is the rivalry with Australia. I know the Australians are too competitive at times, (and would have their 6 month old babies competing in crawling competitions given half the chance), but it's funny watching the Kiwi media gloating that they are higher up the medal table the Australians.  I've heard it mentioned lots. I do however love the fact that when a Kiwi athlete wins a medal, the media really makes a point of mentioning the home town of the athlete, (usually the rowing club - as that is the event they have done well in), and some little story of someone they might now... 

Wellington Waterfront
Now, this week's activities have been pretty limited due to getting a little sick this week. Wednesday I started with a blocked nose, followed by lots of eye watering & swollen eyes on Thursday. I went in work Friday (probably shouldn't have gone in), but was not wanting to waste 1 of only 10 sick days I'm allowed to take... I spent more time in the bathroom blowing my nose, than at my desk! So Wednesday through Saturday I have been stuck at home, trying to stay warm (not in easy in a country where central heating is rarer than a Stewart Downing goal for Liverpool)! It was during this time, having so much time I guess, that I started to miss home, because whilst people are really lovely here, I have found it difficult to really break into people's regular Kiwi lives. Some people have told me that from their experience, unless you have kids, it's hard to feel totally included here, as most parents spend their evenings / weekends supporting their kids in sporting stuff, and therefore spend time with other parents. From my own experience so far, I have to say that most of the people I have met and spent time with are not originally from New Zealand, and tend to be people like myself who have moved here for work reasons. There may be a whole host of other reasons, but the point being that during the times when you feel crappy, and sick, you want your good friends and family around, and it's the one time I have really struggled to not think so positively about being here. I did feel better after having some much needed Skype time with the UK & Colombia!
Enjoying the Winter sun...
Family day out....
And to end the blog on a positive note. I did feel well enough to go for a little walk around today. The sun was shining, and considering it is supposed to be the middle of Winter, it was warm and I couldn't resist siting by the ocean and having a read of my kindle... so here's a few pictures (including the pictures above), from today's walk around Wellington's waterfront! 

On another good note, my good friends Mark & Jenny are arriving for a couple of nights this week, and then will return a week or so later! I can't wait for their arrival, and one of my Australian mates got in touch to say that they might be coming for a visit soon too. So despite feeling a long long way from home this week, I've got plenty to be looking forward to! 
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Regards From New Zealand
Dan